Lazarus de Sade (lazarusdesade) wrote in gayrelationship,
Lazarus de Sade

Hey. I'm new, maybe you all could help me with something.

My partner and I have been together for nearly three years; might not seem like much to some but it's the longest I've ever had. To give added context, we met online and visited often (as often as I could while we were both still in high school), after graduation I moved across the state to be nearer. year and a half or so went by, now I'm here.

We used to be very physically intimate, now she doesn't even like to be naked around me. She has lots of school and work and family stuff, and I often got very frustrated having to always come second; now when I go out with my friend (yes, as in singular) I get calls from her within the hour asking when I'm gonna come home. She makes it clear she doesn't want me to go out, but in a weird passive-aggressive way. She alienates and intimidates my friend. She's often cold or outright harsh to me for no real reason and ignores me when she's over talking to my roommate, yet gets ridiculously clingy when I'm on the computer less than a foot away.

There's more, but I don't wanna fill up the post.

I came out as trans to her after a long painful process about 6 months ago I think. She NEVER talks about it, refuses to even acknowledge it at all. She talks to my roommate about everything and tells me nothing. I know she's not happy, and the way she treats me I'm not happy either.

I love her to death, but I don't know if I can keep going. My roommate wants me to do more to keep us together, but I have done everything I can think of and she just doesn't care.

What do you guys think?

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sounds to me like shes over it, but dosent want to let go. I could be reading it wrong though.